Conquering Fear, One Step at a Time

It's been ages since I've written a blog post, but today feels like the perfect opportunity to share my story. Last year, I was involved in a car accident that left me shaken for months. The fear of driving gripped me tight, making me hesitant to get behind the wheel. I avoided driving my kids or anyone else, fearing the worst. But I knew I couldn't let fear win. So, I took tiny steps to build my confidence back up. It wasn't easy, but after 4-5 months, I was back to normal.

Today, I attended an event alone, and in my excitement, I forgot to check the weather forecast. As the storm warning alerts started pouring in, I felt a knot in my stomach. How would I drive home? The event was 40 minutes away from my house, and the storm was intense. I waited for an hour, hoping the rain would subside, and then I started my journey to home. Since the accident, the fear still lingered, and my heart skipped a beat as a car sped past me. But I took a deep breath and continued driving.

The music was on, but I could barely hear it over my racing thoughts. The lightning in the sky was intimidating, but I focused on the road ahead. As I hit the freeway, the rain intensified, and a loud lightning strike freaked me out. But then, a familiar song played on the radio—"Quit Playing Games with My Heart." I couldn't help but laugh at the irony. The song became my anthem, and I sang along loudly, embracing the fear head-on.

Reaching home safely was a huge victory for me. I've taken control of my fears, and it feels empowering. These small daily battles may seem insignificant, but they add up to bigger triumphs. Today, I want to proudly say that I did win over my fear, and it had a huge impact on me.

Making Difference

Since childhood i had been hearing the word making difference in people's life. I had a very limited scope of my understanding. It started with the idea of giving donation to people who need money. As a kid I did some donation of my old clothes, some toys, books etc.. and here all i use to be satisfied with what i had done.
Gradually as i grew up and after completing college and starting job.. the level of donation a bit changed. I never realized what actually i am making difference in people.. or even in my dearones..

Making difference doesnt mean just giving away something that you see one might be needing, a true sense of making difference is that "when someone who really needs and u are the one who gave it" that's the time you really made difference in someones life.

Let me explain with an example. Say a cancer patient who is urging for love and care and not much worried about how much is he going to live. And in such situation, we normally see that the person is in need of money for his treatement and put all efforts to collect money and save a life. Certainly that's not bad.. however, what will really satisfy that person who is urging for Love and Care. Just think along with collecting money, you would have spent some time with the person, shower your care and spreaded some words of love. How would that person feel??? Have you even thought about it? have you even felt it?

Another most common thing that we all do after becoming elder and start earning.. We start fullfulling all the materialistic needs for our parents.. We will keep saying that you have become old and you cant do this and that, you just rest. We will arrange for all monetory things.. etc... Have you ever thought do they really like to just sit ideal? Do they really feel good about that? What life are we giving to our parents back?
Just think if we can give back those moments when they wanted to do something and didnt do just because they had other priorities.. like world tour or persuing some of their hobbies or learning something. There is no age bar for anything. Just imagine what if they get those moments and they feel fully satisfied with what they have done.

I truely got that difference of making difference... its simply just like "filling the gap"

If i could make someone smile when he really needs it, if could give my parent the power to live the life the way they want, if could enable the people to do unexpected things in their life and make them fully satisfied with it.. then is where i would have really made difference in people's life.

My own Quotes

"Set the goal, strengthen your mind power and see the successful results"

"To win is my habbit, to lose is my exprience"

"Willingness to win is half battle won,
accepting the weekness and converting to strengths wins the remaining."

"I can inspire myself, the world can get inspired by me"

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Life is ruled by Mind Power

Hi !!

Have you ever thought what do want from your life? Why are we born? What is the purpose of mine on this earth?.. huh!! hell lot of stupid questions... Right ?


Life gives lot many things to do..

Can any one answer to :

Should the Life drive us ?
or
we should drive our Life ?

The day we get answers we are through..

From the birth to schooling to colledge .. never realized that what i am doing is for myself or doing as m cultivated such.. Always got good score, achieved lot many prizes in various activities..

Till 10th life was cool.. In 11th GOD knows why this biology came and i failed for the first time..
Oh GOD i pulled my ears and made my mind that i should not fail again.. The concious efforts really worked..

I worked hard.. got thru with minimum percentage in 11th..
But in 12th i scored hightest among rest all subjects .. Ha ha ha .... so funny .. And what abt other subjects .. well just scored average marks..

At such a age one could not even think what are we gonna do in our life.. What i want to become..? Usually we all say i want to become engineer, i want to become doctor.. Are we really interested in it.. Are we able to understand and identify our qualities and capabilities at that time when we have to choose our lines on which our whole life depends..

Very tough.. most of the case it happens that we choose as its wish of our parents, few as because friends are doing, and rest just got a chance as no other option was left..

What next then..


I wanted to go for architect till i was in 10th .. then people explained me that its not good as IT is at boom so go in it.. and my mind diverted to that..
After 12th wanted to go into Computer Engineering.. but for that i didnt work hard in 11th, 12th.. (Why didnt work?) The reason i found today that at that time i was not interested in it..
Did not gather proper information about the course and what should i do for it..

12th result gave me a break.. Could not enter Engineering but still with the advise of one Professor i took Bsc with Statistics and aimed for MCA.

again first year just went with so carelessness. Got ATKT in maths (Maths use to be my favourite. got 99 /100 in 10th) Again hold the ears and worked hard..
This time if was real efforts..

I dedicated worked lot.. regular reading, proper scheduling of reading.. When to complete a particular subject and in what time.. Schedule for time for revision. Mock test.. etc..

I also started computer course and even though having so many things to do.. I could very well work hard.

finally scored 69% in SY Bsc.. (Stood second in department)

Then what next.. New Target of final year - " Distinction "

For that again proper planning and scheduling and best following what to do and how to do..

Rekie also helped.. (just kept on saying i will succeed. i will achieve Distinction).

Mom and Dad use to prepare tea for me and i use to drink with the hope that i want to see the smile on their face..

and finally scored 74%.. (Department First- GOLD MEDALIST)
WOW gr8 achievement... was so happy.. got crazy..

Best Gift i could ever give to my Parents..

Also in Computer classes.. they were conducting centralized exam.. I stood first at City center..

Then what.. Next had to look further for masters.. gave exams at various places.. and finally got into a small town with a well known trust..

Completed MCA.. but what was i then.. realized that i have lost all the confidence.. was afraid of what to do next.. how to do.. started worrying..
Where did that girl go away who worked so hard..

Gave time to think and analyze ownself.. and then realized that she is hidden somewhere inside.. Common come out.. again started to continously think what to do..

First target was that to get back the originality.. a firm determination with lot of thoughts and mind power.. (continuosly running that i want to get myself back)

and it again worked..

The confidence that i lost, the dependency that was established was broken.. started to be independent. gained a good JOB. also achieved certification.. and then a new JOB too in an MNC..

Feeling so nice.. I was just wondering what was the actual thing that was working..
I realized its all "Mind Power"

I did things for myself as well as i wished to make my parents happy so did i.. It was continously in my mind that i should do this to make this possible..


Important is once we set a Goal.. we should strengthen our Mind Power .
for that need to keep on thinking on it..
How will we do?
What are the alternatives?
Be firm in following steps that are defined urself..

Do not hesitate to discuss ur goals with your family.. Because they have keen role to play in ur Success.
Explain what all things are needed for you to accomplish ur goal..
and see the result..

"Mind Power will sure get to ur success"

"I too kept the photo of Hrithik Roshan during my Bsc as at that time he was the most famous .. and he inspried me that before introducing urself to the world you should be prepared in all aspects.."

Its very true..

ah!! now m working as software engineer and now looking forward for my next Goal to set..

Lets c.. what next !!! :))